Wednesday, October 26, 2011

How to Remove Anxiety in Long Distance Relationships - 5 Tips for a Healthier Relationship

Others may say that being in a long distance relationship is not possible. On the contrary, it is very doable. But to make it work, you need to put a lot of effort into it. The hardest thing about long distance relationships is the possibility that your other half may get attracted to other people.
If your partner is a thousand miles away and you constantly worry about the status of your relationship, knowing these tips will be very useful to you and your partner.

Define the Relationship
If you haven't put a label on whatever it is you're doing, then this might be the perfect time to do so. Defining the relationship is a very good first step on tackling your anxiety. What kind of couple are you? Boyfriend-girlfriend, exclusive, engaged, open relationship, pick one and stick to it.
Defining the relationship, means you know your boundaries. If you have your boundaries, you will know what actions are allowable or not.

Communicate as Frequently as Possible
There are a lot of tools to do this, use them always. Communication really is the key to lessen your anxiety. If you trust your partner enough to agree on a long distance relationship, then I believe that his or her word will be good enough to calm you down.

Put an Expiration Date
There should be a time that your long distance relationship will just be a relationship minus the big distance. Having a date or a goal on when the two of you will be together is really important. It will diminish your anxiety bit by bit as every day passes and you get nearer to your goal.

Visit each Other
Got the means to do this? Then you should both do this as frequently as possible. Visiting each other is a nice gesture. It shows that you really care for each other and you are willing to go to great lengths just to see your partner.
Nothing beats the feel and smell of the person you love. Scheduling a weekend getaway just the two of you will be a mini vacation from your long distance relationship. At this point you could talk better and reassure each other again. Or, simply stop talking, relax and enjoy each others company.

More Trust
It's pretty obvious right? You are getting anxious because you don't trust your partner enough. Then all you have to do is get over it and accept the situation you are in. Trusting your partner will rid you of your anxiety and will give you that peace of mind.
If you are feeling a little jittery from all you suspicious thinking then a call wouldn't hurt. Remind yourself of the goal you've set up and take a breather and relax.

Conclusion
Being anxious from time to time is really normal and is actually healthy. But if you are getting anxious everyday of things you are not even sure is happening then get a hold of your self.
Long distance relationships are very simple, but it is never easy. Just hold on and be strong, keep the flame of love alive.


By Richard A. Wright

Long Distance Relationship: How to Keep the Relationship Strong

Are you worried your long distance partner may break up with you? Do you worry that things won't work between you and your man? Do you need some help on how to keep your long distance relationship strong? You have to be real. Distance in a relationship can be a big issue. You need to take this advice on how to strengthen the bond in your long distance relationship.

1. Be trusting
He doesn't have to account to you for everything he does each day. This would be really annoying for him. Put your trust in him and have the belief that he is being faithful. Don't panic if he doesn't answer your messages straight away. He might be busy at work. Or he might be asleep if you are in a different time zone!

2. Communication with him
Keep up the communication, but don't overwhelm him. Send an email or post a letter. Keep in touch with him as often as he desires. Let him know that you care and are thinking of him. Try having a Skype call every week to catch up on what's been happening in your and his week. Tell him some funny stories. Tell him that you really miss him.

3. Keep yourself busy
Don't keep your phone constantly in your hand, waiting for him to call or text you. Get out and about and enjoy your own life. Work hard. Hit the gym. See your friends on the weekends. You don't have to be a prisoner at home. Enjoy yourself and your life - you'll then have lots of great stories to tell him about when you catch up.

4. Give him a surprise
If you have the money, book a plane ticket to visit him. Surprise him by turning up unannounced. He'll be thrilled. If you can't afford to make the trip, send him a care package. Make him a card and write him a lovely note. You could send him a box of his favourite chocolates or his favourite movie on DVD.

5. Organise a holiday for you both
Book a holiday to a place neither of you have visited before. Take the holiday together. You'll then have a whole lot of fun memories that you'll be able to discuss and reminisce about when you catch up on the phone or Skype. Begin planning another holiday with him, so that you both have something fun to look forward to.

By Desiree B North